Hi Reader,

I've said it before and I'll say it again: “Someone setting a boundary with you is someone trying to keep you in.”

And here is why I say it — so that my clients realise that this is the energy behind boundaries, so that they can communicate that to the people they need to set boundaries with.

I also say it because a lot of the clients coming to me think they have boundaries but actually don’t.

They are afraid of setting real boundaries.

Because they don’t want to upset people.
They don’t want to be perceived as giving ultimatums…

But really, us setting a boundary with someone is trying to keep them in our life — when otherwise we'd either dread seeing them or find ways to see them less.

Recently, I've been coaching many clients on applying this with their parents. Because as we grow older, we’re not trying to avoid our parents (like teenagers).

We do want a relationship with them. We know more time has passed than we will have with them.

But we also want to not be at the mercy of their behaviours, likings, opinions, etc.

We have to set the boundary so that we can feel good and keep them in our life.

This is an act of love.

Déborah

PS: If you are ready to become the CEO of your life (rather than the manager), it's time for you to get on a free consultation with me. You can reply to this email or use the link.